When Blogging Gets You #InYourFeelings, Remember Why You Started! πŸ™‡πŸΎβ€β™€οΈπŸ’»

When I first started my blog in 2012, it wasn’t for follows. In fact, I didn’t even know that people could follow me until the topic came up during a job interview in which I wore heels that were probably too high and a face that was likely too made up!

It wasn’t about sponsored posts, becoming a brand ambassador or any other benefits that comes along with blogging nowadays. I was just a broke communications graduate that no one would hire. I figured that blogging would be the perfect way to vent my frustrations while creating some great writing samples in the process.

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After receiving rejection letter upon rejection letter, and pitching some successful and unsuccessful article ideas to various media outlets, I decided that whether anyone hired me or not, I was going to write. If people read my posts or not, I was going to tell a story. I wrote about everything from how I spent my weekends to how irritating and offensive it was (and still is) when my co-workers and others would attempt to touch my hair and, of course fashion!

Since then, I changed my blog’s name from Life of the College Grad (who I was at that time) to A Black Girl About Town, a name that suits who I am today. I post because I want to, not because I feel like I have to and I suck at sharing my posts via social media, although I’m trying to get better at that. I say all of that to say this; I’m guilty at times of letting the politics of blogging get to me.

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We live in a day and age where sadly, success is measured by the number of followers you have. It can be discouraging at times for anyone, especially those of us who are serious about our craft but may not have a huge following. When I found myself bogged down recently with numbers, stats, monetization, etc, I was reminded of why I started blogging in the first place.

The goal never was to be a blogger. As a writer, it was always about encouraging others through written word. The blog just so happened to be the platform that allowed me to do so. Don’t get me wrong, I would love to one day get paid for what I enjoy doing. But I never want that desire to consume me to the point where it takes the fun out of blogging. So, if I never gain a large number of followers or land a sponsorship, that’s okay! That wasn’t the goal. Remember why you started!

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Let’s talk. Have you experienced these feelings as a blogger? How do you handle them?

-A Black Girl About Town


  1. I’ve gone through this several times before. It is always good to reflect on why you started blogging. The purity of blogging because you want to and not simply for the “likes”, “views”, or “numbers” allows you to not get wrapped up in forcing posts. You’re doing great and remaining genuine.

  2. It felt like I just needed to “hear” this. I have been blogging for 7 years too and I have to say that I still love it as much as I did when I started back in 2012. Sure, getting sponsorships, paid campaigns and freebies are nice but I also do like not getting stuff. This allows me to really enjoy what I do and share my experience with my readers.

    I love your content and that says a lot because these days you don’t get bloggers that make you think and want to read. Its all shiny pictures and press releases.

    Ps love your outfit! Nevermind looking like a snack, You look like a whole meal!

    • Thank you!! I’m so touched! ❀I just feel like social media and the internet as a whole has defined what success is and it’s really shallow! I just want to blog, connect with people and if it gets me somewhere that’s great.

      And thanks for always supporting! Your comment about my outfit has me πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

  3. Hey Zee,

    I new you had style at β€œmy”1st work party, lol but I didn’t know much about you, except I liked you and you style. I could see determination and drive in your tiny statue and I’m so glad to have met you. You go with your black girl magic!!

  4. As someone who is somewhat just starting out, and with a minimal following, I definitely appreciated hearing this advice from a fellow blogger! I started my blog so that I could write my poetry, essays, and just random thoughts and ideas that I have, in the hopes of inspiring the same passion in others. I struggle sometimes to stay motivated just because I don’t have a lot of followers, even with promoting on social media. However, thank you for the reminder to remember WHY I started. Even if not many people read it, it’s still a good outlet for me and I feel better when I write. INCREDIBLE POST, thank you! ❀

    • No problem, love! That’s what it’s all about, inspiring and encouraging each other throughout our journeys. ❀ it has its highs and lows but reading comments like this makes me feel like I’m on the right track. Keep doing what you enjoy and you will attract genuine readership.

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