Have you ever been around a person that was so envious of someone else’s success that it was all they talked about? If you were to come straight out and ask them if they were bitter they’d surely deny it. The conversation usually starts with how they are happy for such and such and somewhere in the middle there’s a BUT followed by a bunch of reasons why they feel they are more deserving of said accomplish, accolade, etc. Being around this type of person is bad but being this type of person is worse because the person sees nothing wrong with their behavior.
I once was this person. After graduating college, I worked at KFC. I felt like I had failed. I would hang my head in shame whenever I would see one of my peers too embarrassed of my circumstances. I had worked so hard during college and I felt my job should have been a reflection of that. When I would see my peers go on to take jobs in their field I was happy for them but part of me was angry. I admit, I was low key hating. I felt I was more deserving. After all I had the grades to prove it. Then it dawned on me. I didn’t know what my peers were going through or what it took for them to get there. How could I hate on something that I had no understanding of? At least I had a job! So instead of throwing a pity party for myself, I decided to focus on the things that I wanted in life.
Every day we are granted here on Earth is another chance for us to work closer towards our dreams. The only person we have to blame for not attaining those goals is the person that stares back at us when we look in the mirror. Excuse me for sounding a bit harsh but we must take accountability! Yes some of us are given a more difficult hand in life but the opportunities are the same.
Comparing our lives to others does nothing to get us closer to where we want to be in life! In fact, it blocks our blessings and keeps us stagnant. We shouldn’t be intimidated by the success of our peers. It should be motivation. A reminder that if it can happen for them, it can happen for you too!
The College Grad
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